first, I don’t want to post in the singles & dating category bc they’re all kids.
Thanks.
I’m 26. I’m a little overweight. I had been 15 pounds overweight and wasnt asked out for quite some time…well, I was asked out about 3 times during the year that I was so heavy, but that’s not a lot.
I’ve just lost 10 pounds. Yesterday on the train, I was asleep on my way home from work. I pull my scarf over my eyes to sleep. When I awoke, this young man was sitting next to me and he kept staring at me. I didn’t think anything of it–him maybe being attracted to me was the last thing on my mind, because I still feel heavy, my hair wasn’t done very well, it was the end of the day so my makeup was smeared, I was probably sleeping with my mouth hanging open, and I had on sneakers with my skirt and stalking bc I wear sneakers for the commute.
He just kept staring at me and I ignored it bc I didn’t think it was bc he was interested in me. Then he asked, “do you know what stop that was?” I answered him.
Then he began conversation. He said, “So how was your day?” … we chatted a little bit..he asked if I take this train everyday. He asked where I work. He asked if I like to go into the city for fun… normal stuff… He seems very young and he was wearing jeans. He told me he works at Chase bank… then he seemed disappointed that my stop was the next one. He asked for my number. I gave it to him and he texted me right away so I’d have his.
He texted me early the next morning from the train. He asked me out for this weekend. He wants to go to dinner.
It seems weird that he’s so into me so early on. I hope he doesn’t think I have a really good, high paying job..because I’m just a receptionist.
Should I go out w/ him?
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Hasn’t anyone ever sat you down and had “the talk” with you?
I can tell they have not because you don’t even know how guys think.
A man who is attracted to you – The guy that is asking you out – He is attracted to you AND your extra 15 pounds. If fact, he cant’ even see it or your imperfect makeup or your dirty sneakers. All of those things you mentioned – Your self sabotaging excuses for not going out with him – He cannot see a single one of them. Simply because he is attracted to you. This is how this man sees you – Flawless – Go with it.
Not that you asked but you have to be wondering how does he see you? He see’s you as attractive, pretty, sexy – All of those things you cannot see in the mirror? He sees you perfectly.
If he’s dated a girl before – I’m sure he knows how to deal with your insecurities. Let him.
As someone else suggested – do an afternoon date – No pressure on where to end the evening – Just get to know him. That guy is so unbelievably excited right now – You have no idea – But he is.
You must have a really low opinion of men. You think he won’t be attracted to you because of your dress size – 15 extra pounds – And you hope he doesn’t think you have a high paying job? If he’s a real man he couldn’t care less about your salary or your dress size – HE LIKES YOU. Now please go out with him.
Go for itt
Never be self conscious about yourself. He asked you out so he likes you x
skirt and STALKINGS?
wow what a Freudian slip THAT was.
you MEANT “stockings” – OR DID YOU?
Try a day date to start, lunch or coffee during the week if you can meet up. That way it will give you more time to chat and then decide if perhaps a proper date is in the cards, you know, dinner and drinks, whatever.
It sounds to me like you are quite attractive but have your own doubts because you either compare yourself to other women too much or have not been the object of a man’s desire for a while, that its given you a sense that you are not attractive. Fear not, you are a beautiful woman and have lots to offer, so be confident and open to meeting this guy. I can tell you it takes some guts to chat up a woman on the train, or anywhere for that matter, so give him the benefit of the doubt and see how it goes. Have fun with it!
I say yes, but make sure you stay in the public view (theater, restaurant, etc.).
Make sure you tell someone who you are going with and even have them call to check on you.
It used to be how we (I include myself at 43) met people- by happenstance- now it’s too technological.
This may work out to be your ‘happy’ story.
Good luck.
There’s never any harm in going out with a guy to see what he’s like. I say go out with him but don’t expect anything and just see if you two click. My advice is always to be picky and then you’ll find a winner. But always always give life a chance to take it’s crazy turns and always go on lots of dates.
well he obviously knew what he wanted and went for it so if you have good conversations with him why not go out on the date with him. Just see how it goes