Hi, I’m 25, have a 3-month old daughter, a wife, two horses, two dogs and a cat to feed and I have a house payment along with other things. The current job I have pays very well (in my opinion), I made well over 100k in 2011, but that’s with a lot of over time. I will probably make around 80-90k in 2012 because I’m not planning on taking much (if any) over time.
The job pays for bills and the pets I’ve mentioned above, especially horses, which need to be taken care of and fed. My wife is not working and I don’t want her to work, because we feel that at least one parent has to be with the child at home until they’re ready to go to school. I have 30k in debt (not counting the 280k in mortgage) and most of it will be paid off by next Christmas. Most people would be happy with a 100k job, excellent healthcare benefits and an amazing retirement, right? Especially with no college degree. But I just hate my job… as much as I try to convince myself that I can or should love.. or even like… or even tolerate my job, I get very depressed that for the next 25 years (until retirement) I will have to do this…. I got into this field thinking that I will love it, and I enjoyed it the first 6 months. After 6 months, I began questioning my choice. I just completed my second year on the job in December and things are not getting any better… I’m getting more depressed about my choice. My schedule is horrible (I work 12.5 hours a day), plus 2-3 hours of commute every day. I have 3-4 days off a week, but it takes 1-2 days to recover from being exhausted.
I was always happy when I met my wife… now I snap easily and can rarely control it, even when I see it before it comes. Definitely do not want my daughter to have a father that has an uncontrollable short temper. I get worse the closer I get to my work week. The day before I can’t even get any rest, thinking of how much I hate of going to work the next day.
I always loved computer and graphic design. I actually have some pretty good personal/hobby experience with those two fields and find myself to be a pretty advance user. I always enjoyed working (as a hobby) in those two fields, so I’m thinking of getting a degree in one of them. I have 2 years left of paid education from my GI bill (I used up the other 1 year on my current job’s training)… GI pays for 36 months, right? Forgot….
So, I’m am not sure what field to get into. Should I just get an associates in science (IT) in a community college and then transfer into a specific field in a 4 year college?
Another thing is that getting a degree will take several years (even with a few credits I have while taking college in the military)…. and I don’t know how much longer I can take of my current job.
I feel like I’m a whiner or something… 100k job, great benefits, great retirement and I’m not satisfied… but that’s the way it is.
So, I’m not sure what to do at all… any suggestions?
Not Happy With My Career Choice…. Advice Is Welcome.?
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First of all I would like to say the following to you and please read it a couple of times:
‘ You are a young adult that achieved something most people are dreaming of.’
I could stop this post just by that sentence but let me give you some more tips.
When it comes to having a job – it really counts that you have fun and are passionate in what you do. People say it all the time and it almost looks like its some kind of fairy tail, but it isn’t. Yes, it’s not easy for most people to find something they like and the circumstances people live in like having a family and responsibilities.
But keep in mind, even if you found something you really love doing – you will NEVER earn this much money. Maybe in the long run if you are lucky but these chances are small. Unless you are that passionate about it and work hard but that’s another story.
SLEEP – your daily schedule is a heavy one – that’s the price you pay for having a salary like that – it makes you forget about the beautifull things in life (opportunity cost). Your mind and body need rest as well and not to mention – your body needs to stay healthy and fit. Which means you need time to sport.
Having a family is something very beautiful and it’s more important than money – however – its a two way show – you need to find a balance in your life.
I want to close this post with the following:
Take a walk in the park – or do something which makes your head empty – talk with your wife about it and together you will get it sort out.
Share your thoughts with her – you are not alone.
You’d be surprised how far a 2 year degree will get you. My advice would be to get your 2 year degree right away. You can either go at night while staying at your current job, or take a pay cut and get an entry level job in your new field of choice. After your 2 year degree is completed you can always continue on to your 4year degree if needed. But I would go back to school. If you don’t do it now, you may never do it.
well first of all…YOU HAVE RESPONSIBILITIES…wife & child, debt + mortgage, looks like a ranch or hobby ranch with associated expenses.
You cannot just walk away from a job that pays well at this time…that would be incredibly selfish of you.
You are quite young…obviously talented to get the job you have…nothing to say you have to stay in it for the rest of your working life. You don’t say what your job is but if you are in the country, what makes you think your commute will be less in a new job???
My advice is bite the bullet…do the job you are in….look for opportunities to do less work for same pay…you are not 20 years old and single anymore….YOU HAVE RESPONSIBILITIES…those MUST be looked after first. However, don’t let that stop you from looking elsewhere for work that lessens your load…just don’t put your family at risk.